Self-love has had a bad reputation. Still, there’s a good way to love ourselves, and there’s a bad way.
When we think of self-love we tend to think of narcissists who believe the world revolves around them. It goes without saying that narcissists do themselves no favors with that mindset. Narcissists are in a lonely world of one. We don’t love ourselves very well when we prefer ourselves over the rest of the world.
Apparently, self-love doesn’t necessarily mean self-preference. We don’t need to be better than our neighbors to be satisfied with ourselves. No need to compare and compete! This kind of self-endorsement causes division and is nothing but foolish pride.
Despite self-love’s bad rap, God strongly encourages us to love ourselves. Why? I believe if we love ourselves poorly we will love our neighbors poorly. One doesn’t go without the other. Loving ourselves and others belongs together. Sometimes easier said than done, ain’t that the truth? Seems to me, we tend to either overindulge or go into the opposite direction and despise ourselves.
On a personal note, it tremendously helped my self-esteem to try seeing myself through God’s eyes. God loves the true me, not an image I’ve created as a representation of myself. By the way, He absolutely hates it when we create an image of God and love that instead of Him. We can do better than that. We can get to know Him and love who He really is. God is no fairy tale. And we are no fairy tale either.
Self-love in God’s eyes is accepting our essence. Appreciating who we are is a “Thank you” to the Creator who skillfully made us.